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  • Self-compassion: Take a minute to un-hate yourself

    Self-compassion: Take a minute to un-hate yourself

    We all have an inner critic. Some of us have developed healthy ways of dealing with its voice, and some of us listen to it because we don’t know there’s an alternative. For me, it says things like: “Geez, can’t you just get out of bed already? You’re so freakin’ lazy. Come on.” “Wow, you’ve…

  • Living in the discomfort of the unresolved.

    Living in the discomfort of the unresolved.

    Right now, I’m living in a period of change and nearly constant trial-and-error. I’ll readily admit that in my recent lifestyle changes and job transition, I’ve fallen back into my default mode where I feel the need to cram all my life experiences from day to day into either “good” or “bad,” “black” or “white.” My default…

  • P is for Perfectionist: Are you “perfecting yourself to death”?

    P is for Perfectionist: Are you “perfecting yourself to death”?

    I’ve heard it said that “realizing you have a problem is the first step to recovery.” I used to think that idea was limited to addiction and alcoholism, but as it turns out, “realizing you have a problem” is actually pretty close to saying, “Humble yourself and examine your heart.” My story of dealing with perfectionism…

  • When things don’t go according to “the plan.”

    When things don’t go according to “the plan.”

    As of last Sunday, December 6th, Luke and I have been engaged for a full year. The plan was to be engaged for less than a year. The plan was that wedding prep would go oh-so-smoothly. The plan was for me to live in my current apartment for less than six months. The plan was to…